we've been very active lately... we've already played 3 gigs, have a new song and we even went to Baguio for a quick gulp of cool air...
but there seems to be something just around the corner that might cause a sudden stop to our slightly happy 2011 journey...
i've just learned of this last night and was quite upset... i felt much more agitated when one of my bandmates (jokingly) suggested that if ever that "unfortunate situation" comes out then, there's no use moving on...
well i don't really give a fuck whether everyone leaves... it's nothing new really... i only thing that gets me annoyed is the idea that just because you're bound to lose a single strand of hair you're about to let go of the rest... that's really something isn't it...
i just can't help feeling really offended...
to the cause... hope you get what you truly deserve...
3 comments:
Hi. First off, I don’t think I have to explain anything to you, really. Because: 1. I’m not in any way affiliated to Candyaudioline for more than 5 years now (whatever happens to the band is of no consequence to me) 2. Far as I know, I didn’t do anything detrimental to your band (though I believe that you see the opposite). Oh, and yes, I have just been told that this entry might be pertaining to me, albeit indirectly.
You know Allan, the way Jeff and I settle our marital problems is between me and him only. His taking a rest period from your band just happens to be incidental.
One of the issues which brought about this “rocky period” that we had was that we no longer have much time for each other. I’m not obliged to go into details and to explain these things to you for an obvious reason—that it’s none of your business.
But to put it simply, we hardly see each other anymore primarily because of our daily routine. I only have a 1-day rest per week and the nature of his work necessitates his being away from our home, at times, for as long as 72 straight hours AND falling on my only rest day.
Given that I cannot question his work the way that he cannot question my career path, we had to compromise on other things to be able to allocate whatever’s left of our free time for our family. It’s about time that we do something about it, most especially now that this issue has affected not only our relationship, as husband and wife, but also Trista’s performance in school.
Nagkataon lang na sa pagbabanda napupunta ang oras ni Jeff during his supposed free time. If it were another cause, iba sana ang matatamaan. I don’t know if you’d understand my reason for resorting to this. Pero medio naiintindihan ko if you don’t. You would have to experience being married to someone and having a family of your own first before you’d be able to fathom this kind of situation.
I understand how passionate you are about your craft and why this has been affecting you negatively. Buhay mo talaga ang pagbabanda eh. Gets ko yan. Playing in a band has always been a part of our lives too. Pero samin kasi, hindi lang sa pagbabanda umiikot ang buhay namin ngayon. If we have to choose which one to save--band or marriage--it will always be our marriage. At the end of the day, family trumps playing in a band.
Also, to clarify things for you and for whatever it’s worth, I didn’t single out Candyaudioline. I told my husband to choose from any of the bands that he’s playing with now. It was Jeff who picked your band. And another thing, hindi ko sha pinapa-alis at hindi rin sha aalis. Magpapahinga lang sha for a certain period. Bakit ko sha paaalisin eh ako nga ang nagsabi sayo na kunin sha as drummer, remember? For now, we just need more time for each other to mend things. Again, I don’t expect you to understand.
Another thing, there’s no reason, at least on my part, to single out your band and to do this deliberately. Wala naman akong galit sayo. Binati pa nga kita nung new year eh. Kung may hinaing ka man sakin, for whatever reason, ikaw nalang yun.
Lastly, baka naman may mag interpret pa ng sablay sa mga kabanda mo tungkol sa pagtanggal ko ng connections ko sa inyo sa lahat ng social networking accounts ko. Well actually, hindi lang naman kayo. Pati sila Bheng at pati mga relatives din ni Jeff. I did that at the time nung hindi pa kami ok. I didn’t want to be bothered by anyone connected to him at the time. Kung may kabanda ka man, who would prefer to think another way—chura nya :p
For the last time, I don’t expect you to understand. I’m just saying my piece. Mind you, this is not a flame war. That is so 2003 and I don’t play things that way, anymore. Growing up, I guess.
On a final note: yes, I did get what I truly deserve—I have my marriage and my family in tact. And I am very happy about it.
Ok i understand... di mo rin maalis sa akin na maasar kasi kilala mo ako...
i've been longing to see something come out of this band for so long na and eto na nga sana yun... i'm not targeting anything really other than being content na maganda at gusto ko yung lumalabas sa amin and Jeff 20% of what make this band click at the moment...
and don't be affected by my closing statement "to the cause... hope you get what you truly deserve" kasi hindi naman ikaw ang tinutukoy dyan... when i said "cause" i was pertaining to an "objective" or mithiin and not the "reason" or dahilan...
Yes, I kind of expected your reaction. I've known you for a full decade. I do understand how this can frustrate you. But it's a dilemma that we really, REALLY have to go through.
Soon as things have settled down, Jeff will still be back naman. It won't be that long. Ambilis nga ng panahon eh. And besides, if we work things out fine, I'm pretty sure Jeff will be able to perform better than he already has in all his extra-curricular activities.
Anyway, thanks for understanding. Pag-uusap lang naman ang kelangan to avoid miscommunication. Sa dami na ng pinagdaanan natin, I don't think it's worth it na masira ang pagkakaibigan natin only because of this. Ikaw pa nga dapat tatakbuhan ko when this happened to us. I remember when you had your own issues with your lovelife, ako rin ang tinakbuhan mo kahit supposedly magka-away tayo at the time.
Anyway, yun lang bago pa lumayo usapan.
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